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 18-10-2009 06:13:14 PM
Robert
Robert
From: United Kingdom

May 7, 2003. I remember that day well, because it was the day on which my life changed, the day that launched me on the path to writing the book Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born.

I was 40 at the time, working as a self-employed marketing and communications consultant and feeling profoundly unfulfilled with my life. I often had the feeling that if I were to fall off the face of the Earth, none of my clients would notice. They would simply plug someone else into my role and continue along.

Yet, at the same time I had a feeling that there was a higher purpose to my life. I just didn’t know what it was. And so, in my search for that higher calling, I did something on that fateful day in 2003 that I had never done before: I had a session with a psychic medium.

The medium introduced me to the concept of spirit guides – highly evolved, nonphysical beings with whom we plan our lives before birth and who then guide us through our lives after we incarnate. Through the medium, I was able to speak with my guides. They told me that I myself had planned many of my greatest challenges in life - and that I had done so before I was born.

I might have dismissed this as some sort of elaborate fantasy, except that my guides knew literally everything about me. They knew not only what I had done in life, but also what I had thought and felt. Private thoughts and feelings that I had never shared with anyone.

For example, five years earlier I had been going through a very difficult time in my personal life. One day, alone in the privacy of my home, and silently in my mind, I said a prayer to God. I said, “God, I can’t get through this alone. Please send help.” I had completely forgotten about this prayer, but my guides knew about it, and they reminded me of it. They added, “Your prayer was answered,” by which they meant that additional nonphysical guidance had been sent. I was astounded.

As you can imagine, when certain beings know literally everything about you, they have a great deal of credibility.

So I was listening in rapt attention when they went on to tell me why I had planned some of my greatest challenges. In the days and weeks after the session with the medium, this information was constantly on my mind. It allowed me to review the course of my life and, for the first time in many instances, see a deeper purpose to the seemingly bad things that had happened. For me, this was deeply healing.

I realized I was on to a concept that could bring similar healing to other people. I started to think about writing a book about it.

At the same time, I began to have metaphysical experiences of my own. I would like to tell you about one in particular that profoundly informed my research and forever altered the way I look at the world.

One day, I was working in my home office and decided to take a break and go for a walk. As I was meandering down the sidewalk, I was suddenly overcome by a feeling of overwhelming unconditional love for every person I saw.

I remember this experience with crystal clarity. The first person I was a cab driver sitting behind the wheel of his cab, waiting for a fare to come along. I looked at this man – a complete stranger to me – and felt nothing but pure, unconditional love for him. Then I noticed a barbershop on the corner. I looked through the window and saw a barber cutting someone’s hair. Again, I felt overwhelming love for these people who I did not know and had never seen before. Then I noticed a young mother pushing an infant in a stroller down the sidewalk. Once more I felt the same unconditional love for these people. Everywhere I looked, every time I saw a person, I felt tremendous love flowing over me and through me.

Though I had never heard or read of an experience like this, I knew immediately and intuitively what was happening: I was in enhanced communion with my own soul. It was as though my soul were saying to me, “This love is who you really are. This is your true nature.”

I believe that my soul gifted me with this experience because when I went on to research and write Your Soul’s Plan, every pre-birth blueprint I examined was based on unconditional love. This was true even when the souls were scripting a “negative” role for someone to play.

Had I not had that experience of myself as unconditional love, I would have found exactly the same results in my research. But I think there would always have been a little voice at the back of my head saying, “How do you know any of this is true?” Well, I know it’s true because I experienced it myself. And so I can state to you with absolute confidence and certainty that I believe that we as souls are made quite literally from the energy of unconditional love.

In order to research people’s pre-birth plans, I collaborated with four very gifted mediums and channels, including one who is able to hear the conversations people had before they were born with their future parents, children, spouses, friends, and other loved ones. I put these conversations verbatim into the book. The people I interviewed had planned such challenges as physical illness, having handicapped children, deafness, blindness, drug addiction, alcoholism, losing a loved one, and severe accidents.

Why do we plan before birth to experience challenges? I found four primary reasons.

First, challenges allow us to balance karma from past lives. Karma is sometimes conceptualized as “cosmic debt,” but I think of it more as unbalanced energy. Let’s say, for example, that in a past life one person was physically ill and another person was the caretaker. When these two people transition back into spirit and have their life review, they will have a sense of unbalanced energy. One way to create balance would be to switch roles. The one who was ill now plans to be the caretaker, while the one who was the caretaker now plans to experience illness. What makes these life blueprints so challenging is that once in body, neither soul will remember the pre-birth plan.

Second, we plan challenges in order to heal. For example, Penelope, the deaf woman in my book’s chapter on deafness and blindness, planned to be born completely deaf because in a past life she had heard the gunshots that killed her mother. She was a small child when the murder occurred. She was traumatized by her mother’s death and went on to commit suicide later in that incarnation. In this lifetime, she sought to focus on self-healing and wanted to make sure that her healing would not be hindered by a similar trauma. In her pre-birth planning session, her spirit guide asks, “My dear . . . would you prefer to be born deaf so that no sound will ever remind you of those sounds again?” Penelope replies, “Yes, that is what I want and what I wish to do.”

Third, we plan challenges to be of service to others. In the chapter on physical illness, I write about Jon, a homosexual man who planned to have AIDS so that he could teach tolerance to humanity. In his pre-birth planning session, we heard Jon conferring with the soul of the future loves who would – at his request – transmit the virus to him. The future lover says, “There is an issue larger than all of the personal benefit of contracting this illness. We can teach our elders, honor them, and provide them with a valuable opportunity to experience, learn, and grow.” Jon, therefore, is not someone to be judged or scorned, but rather someone we may thank for having the raw courage to plan such a bold mission in service to others.

Lastly, life challenges allow us to know ourselves as love. By this I mean not simply that we are loving, although certainly that is true, but that we are quite literally made of the energy of love. In our nonphysical Home, we experience no contrast to ourselves and therefore cannot fully understand our nature as love. On Earth, in a realm of duality and stark contrast, we often encounter a lack of love. As we choose in the face of such experiences to give and receive love freely and unconditionally, we remember who we really are.

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Robert Schwartz is the author of Your Soul’s Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born. A free PDF with a large sample of the book is available on Mr. Schwartz’s web site at www.yoursoulsplan.com

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 19-10-2009 02:09:36 AM
Jon
Jon
From: New Zealand

'Unconditional love' does not exist, it is either love or it is not love. Love is complete in itself and cannot have conditions. Love (in this context) is a noun, wall is a noun, you can't have an unconditional wall. The premise of this post is good, the details need a little refining.

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 19-10-2009 08:32:51 PM
Helen
Helen
From: United Kingdom

On the contrary, Jon, unconditional love is the only kind there is! People bandy the word 'love' around willynilly, so much so that it has come to mean practically nothing. "I love olives", for instance, only means I like them a lot. It has nowt to do with real love - which is unconditional love. And love between man & woman is VERY often NOT unconditional love either!!

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 20-10-2009 02:07:45 AM
Jon
Jon
From: New Zealand

Helen, just because the word 'love' is bandied around, does not detract from it. Love is just love, nothing more, nothing less. To put conditions on love, as in unconditional love, is NOT love.

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 29-10-2009 03:41:40 AM
Suzanne
Suzanne
From: New Zealand

I realise we have gone away from the thread of Robert's original post but I was interested in what Jon and Helen were discussing. Hmm, an interesting one Jon and Helen. I agree with you both so there has to be another part to this equation.

Like Jon said love is love, so you can’t have more love, because it just IS what it is. So I think that there has to be another part to this and to me that is “there are many levels to love”.

There’s the mother’s/father’s love for their baby; the teenager in love with a pop star or their picture; the man/woman love – that wonderful romantic feeling and attraction (which can last a lifetime or a few years, but when it is used up it is used up and they move on – or they should.) And then the love people have written about with their experience of their oneness with nature. There’s out of body accounts of experiencing a love they did not believe possible. To me these are all the levels. None lesser or greater. Just levels of love.

So what do I think unconditional love is – because I believe in that, too. Well at the moment this is what I think - but I’m always open to expanding my thinking. So I think it means you recognise the greater self of every person you come in contact with and you therefore don’t judge. To me, it doesn’t mean you prop up their unacceptable behaviour by loving them – because that’s endorsing and propping up their bad behaviour. But you recognise we are all here on this planet – learning, and you recognise that is where they are at, and you’ve most likely been their yourself because how else would you recognise it as unacceptable. To me this sort of unconditional love is Christ Consciousness – something this planet desperately needs.

That biblical saying of Jesus’ about ‘turning the other cheek’, to me that doesn’t mean you stand there and unconditionally, with love, take another dose. I think it means you don’t respond with anger or judgement. It’s a big call. I think this is what I think, and if it is - I still haven’t learned it yet. LOL

Robert, is this what you were experiencing when you walked down the street and felt unconditional love for the people you saw? Can you tell us what you think it is?

Last edited: 29-10-2009 03:50:52 AM

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 11-12-2009 01:45:07 AM
Ali
Ali
From: Australia

Perhaps 'unconditional love' is a feeling so great and so divine that there really are no words on this earth to describe it and 'unconditional love' is the closet we have to describing that feeling/knowledge?

Just throwing that in for thoughts.....

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 11-12-2009 08:05:59 AM
Jon
Jon
From: New Zealand

So if we have unconditional love we can also have conditional love?
You either have love or not.

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 11-12-2009 08:56:58 AM
Hal
Hal
From: United States

Nice post Robert. You do explain the difference between the subjective awareness of love and the objective awareness of it. I don't want to put words in Jon's mouth, but he seems to be defining subjective love, or as you said, non physical love. Our objective concept of love is what Helen and the other comments express. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to love, There is no judgment in its quality. We choose to seperate love, but it flows through all consciousness. We choose to perceive and experience it physically in the diversity that exists in our belief structure.
Hal

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 8-05-2010 12:00:14 PM
sheila
sheila
From: United Kingdom

Hi all, I have read with interest all you have to say about love and also about reiki and attunements and masters. There is one thing which runs through it all and that is unconditional love. I feel it is simply a giving without expecting anything in return. It is what you need to feel for attunements to be a spiritual transference rather than a lot of posing and hand waving. I believe it is also something which you either feel or you don't - it cannot be taught - only experienced and felt so that you can return it. I am a reiki master/teacher and was lucky enough to be finally attuned by a very spiritual lady who taught in a very small way and did not charge a fortune, simply a reasonable amount for her time and expenses. I now do the same and have had some very wonderful moments and met and attuned some interesting and powerful healers.
I said finally attuned because my first two attunements were at a college with about 14 other attunees and I felt something was definitely lacking.
I have also met people who have paid hundreds for an attunement with very little satisfaction and no follow-up or support. I suppose in the end you get what you are looking for, either a spiritual experience and the desire and ability to help or simply a certificate to show people and another string to your bow in order to make more money. Sooooooooooo! How much should we be charging in order to be fairly recompensed for out time and effort??????????
Sheila
U.K.

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 10-05-2010 01:58:37 AM
Jon
Jon
From: New Zealand

Very good points Sheila, how much should you charge?????
Helping people is one thing, teaching is another.......hmmmmmm, good question.

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 12-05-2010 02:59:04 AM
Ian
Ian
From: United Kingdom

One of the features of our Mindfulness Development programme, at work, is that, increasingly, my colleagues and I intuitively know how much to charge (including, on occasions, nothing) - and when to refuse the work altogether. I recommend it! x

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 26-05-2010 07:46:51 PM
Kevin
Kevin
From: United Kingdom

That on which we cannot speak, we would best remain silent.

Metaphysics is, no doubt, an interesting way to pass the time but, these days, I'm too busy living.

I don't mean to be rude. I just want to promote the benefits of living in the here and now.

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 15-08-2010 02:25:49 AM
Barbara
Barbara
From: United Kingdom

Semantics aside I think that feeling of Unconditional Love is a moment of really experiencing the true Oneness of us all. The human experience that we are here experiencing, and learning from, is one of separateness, and can make us feel lonely in a crowd.

blessings
Barbara

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